3 Ways How To Not Be Jealous Of Your BFF Having Other Friends

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Let’s face it! Each one of us has undergone that situation when we are jealous of other people bonding with our close friends. It kills you how your friend hangs out with other people but you just try to behave like you are fine with it. Does that make us a bad person or inhuman? No. Actually, that’s what truly explains that we are all humans with feelings.

It’s absolutely normal to be jealous. You feel like the other person is taking your place and you are no more important to your friend. Like you don’t occupy the same position in their heart as before. You hate your best friend for this but at the same time, you love them too. People try being nice to you so that you set them up with your best friend. You feel neglected or like she’s getting all the attention. You feel like she’s so lucky- her parents are so understanding, she gets whatever she wants, she’s beautiful too. In short, you are jealous of your friend. You want to hate them, but still, you love them because they are so nice and make you feel happy. You enjoy their company. But that cauldron of jealousy bubbling within you is becoming a hindrance in your friendship. So the thing to be done is simple you just need to get rid of this feeling, but getting rid of it isn’t so simple. Being with it is even more difficult, so it’s best to try to to get rid of it.

In short, you are jealous of your friend. You want to hate them, but still, you love them because they are so nice and make you feel happy. You enjoy their company. But that cauldron of jealousy bubbling within you is becoming a hindrance in your friendship. So the thing to be done is simple you just need to get rid of this feeling, but getting rid of it isn’t so simple. Being with it is even more difficult, so it’s best to try to to get rid of it.

Here are some tips which will help you in getting over this feeling of jealousy:

1. Work on your self-confidence:

This may sound completely unrelatable, but it’s the truth. You are going through this because of your low self-confidence. Learn to do new things which are keeping you behind and be confident about yourself. Participate in public speaking, interact with new people. All this will lead to you being less jealous because then you will realize your importance, so will the others gradually.

Self-Confidence

Self-Confidence

2. Stop overthinking:

The situation is not always the way you think about it. It’s possible that you are just paying a lot of heed to that matter. It’s not like your best friend is the only person in the world you talk to besides your family. Like you talk to other people, she socializes too. Just remind this fact to yourself everytime you overthink.

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Stop overthinking

3. Talk! Talk!

The problem can be solved with you discussing whatever is going on in your mind with someone or may be your best friend itself. They’ll understand and help you out. But if you aren’t good at such talks, don’t do it, you don’t want to make the situation worse, right? Observe: Sometimes when you see two people together and realize how important they are to each other and how pure their friendship is you let go of your jealousy. This will also tell you that you are mature enough to see your best friend be good friends with other people too.

Observe: Sometimes when you see two people together and realize how important they are to each other and how pure their friendship is you let go of your jealousy. This will also tell you that you are mature enough to see your best friend be good friends with other people too.

3. Test time:

It’s time for your friend to prove her friendship. Do not talk to her much for some days, keep distant. But don’t ignore her totally. If she notices the difference in your behavior and asks you about what’s wrong, then it’s time for you to rejoice because your friend just passed the test. It may seem a little difficult not talking to her about everything, but you gotta try this once. If she doesn’t notice the difference even in a week, then you gotta move on. She was never your real friend or you will always keep saying to yourself -‘Hello! I’ve been here for you for like ages and you didn’t even notice me. Get your eyes checked and your brain too.’

Best Friends

Best Friends

You have to tone down on that jealousy devil. You can go towards the other end of the spectrum by making new friends and keeping yourself busy with other things. Maybe your friends will get a piece of the same jealousy cake that you’ve been eating for so long. These small things can add spring to your steps. Friendship is the best gift one could cherish and best friends are a family which is just not related to blood types. Make sure that you don’t fan the flames and ruin your friendship for a petty thing like jealousy.

Think of it as a small thing which can not take control of you. It will take time but you will gradually learn to get over this feeling of jealousy. And after a few years, you’ll come to know that there was nothing like that happening. It was just your imagination, you had never lost your friend. One day you will laugh at this fact and make fun of that girl together. Wait for it! Remember no one is gonna babysit you emotionally if you keep behaving like an 8-year-old kid and wait for you to grow up. Think about it this way – you don’t want to have a friend who has no other friends except you, that would be kind of spooky I guess. Similarly, they don’t wanna have a friend with only them defining their social circle. So get a life.

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